multitasking

Dear Victoria,

My wife and I have been married for six months now and recently I decided to take paternity leave after the birth of our son, while my partner returns to work. However, as I remain at home, I find that childcare while keeping the house tidy and trying to cook makes me feel very stressed. I try not to complain about this too much as my partner is usually very tired and worn out after returning home from work. Could you please give me some ideas on how I could discuss this issue with her?

Simon

Dear Simon,

I hear where you’re coming from in this situation, as being a new parent in itself is very stressful along with the tasks you are upholding. Your co-parenting role is a crucial one and I have no doubt as to the benefit your little one derives from your care. The key to resolving this issue is to achieve a balance through effective communication with your partner. So try and sit down with your partner and express how you are feeling and together come up with a solution on how you both can share the workload at home more evenly. For example, you cook and your partner cleans or vice-versa; get paid help with cleaning; try to create couple time and a good space to talk. This will contribute towards reducing stress and strengthen your relationship.

Victoria